Dress nicely, as the girl will appreciate the effort put into looking good for her, and encourage her to do the same. Do you really want to wait two years to enjoy sex, fun, happiness, intimacy with someone. Mormons love to have fun, but they prefer keeping it clean, respectful, and something that everyone can enjoy. Nobody has prepared her for one, definitely haven't prepared her for a healthy physical relationship. The answer is, most emphatically, NO. My wife is living proof that they CAN be worth it. I also felt like I could never be a good wife.
When missionaries come home, they are like top dog religious people. Yeah man, don't doubt someone who was a missionary will try to convert you. Where does that leave me.
If so, you have a chance. Otherwise you risk having an awkward mix between dating and hanging out, which can be uncomfortable for those involved. I remember attending numerous priesthood meetings by myself and wishing dad were next to me. I have a fairly business profession, but a lot of other stuff going on most weeknights. I don't really care if she's religious or not, unless she brings it up all the time or tries to convert me. She likely hasn't had many long-term relationships and has no idea what dynamics are involved in one. Lonliness is hard no matter the reason for it. In addition to your religious leaders, there are counselors who specialize in interfaith couples. Even though it sounds like she is very Mormon, I feel that this will help her.
I feel sorry for you, not because your husbands are working so hard but because you gave up your own lives. I'm surprised this thread is still getting replies. And as an anonymous comment put it, date night is sometimes out of the question because he is using his "free" time as catch up on sleep time. Yes; I suppose if each of us believe the other is brainwashed, there's going to be major problems later on. These are nice people. I really like this girl but, is Mormonism so toxic that I should just sever the relationship before it gets serious. A quiet, hard working immigrant but dedicated and faithful. It is my opinion I know my husband loves to come home and only eat, sleep and have wild sex.